From the start, my career took me into working with trauma. As a result I investigated every possible kind of therapy that could speed up the process, make my work easier and make treatment easier for my clients. I also worked with clients who had Multiple Personality Disorder diagnoses (now called Dissociative Identity Disorder) and, as a result, became very aware of the of the body-mind cross-over.
Perhaps as a result of this experience which rocked my original perceptions about who we are, I began exploring the works of authors who were writing about living well. I explored Depok Chopra, Larry Dossey, Joan Borysenko, Gary Zukov and many others who wrote about the connection between mind, matter and spirit.
Then in 1991, I began taking a series of training workshops in what is referred to as Energy Psychology or Meridian Psychology and became more and more intrigued by this connection between our thoughts, our minds, and our bodies. The basic conclusions that I came to from all of this reading and my own experience in my life and as a clinician are these:
1. Our beliefs shape how we behave to a great degree. 2. Our behavior tends to reinforce our beliefs 3. Many if not most of our beliefs are irrational. 4. Our beliefs, rational and irrational come from a variety of sources including traumas, childhood experiences, racial memories, myths, repeated childhood messages spoken and unspoken, religious teachings etc.. 5. These beliefs are encoded at a level which cannot effectively be reached by logical thinking and mental exercises no matter how hard we may work at changing them and however much we know they are illogical. 6. We form a belief system whose parts hang together and reinforce each other. 7. If our belief system leads us to be unhappy and dissatisfied our health is adversely affected as are our relationships. 8. Our attitude in the world has an impact on those around us and at some level on the whole world. 9. If we can change our core beliefs at the body-mind level to positive joy inducing beliefs, our health will likely improve, as will our quality of life, our relationships and by extension our world. 10. This change is worth accomplishing for myself and for my clients and others. 11. The movement of the human spirit is towards growth and happiness and we will move in that direction naturally if blocks are removed. 12. If we operate from our true values we will be true to ourselves. 13. When we operate from fear is when we cause problems for ourselves and for others. 14. When we look for what we want we find who we are. Our wants are God given and help us to find who we are and what we are to do in life.
In my own life and in my work with clients and I come up many times with good intentions that don’t work. What is the missing piece? I believe that CYM may have some of the answers. This, LIKE ALL LIVING THINGS, is in process always. Tomorrow you or I may come up with another more effective way to reach those hidden controllers which keep us from being truly at peace tight ourselves and with each other. Until then this is my best attempt.
WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT IS NOT
CYM holds that our behaviors are derived from early experiences to which we react because they have not been correctly assimilated. The process may be remarkably rapid and does not necessarily involve suffering in the process of change.
With trauma resolution the experience such as a rape or a car accident is stored in the nervous system and becomes “a touchstone, a primary self-defining event in ... life.” The next event which is similar is stored and links up with the original node forming a “neuro network that will be pivotal to the definition of ... self-worth.” This may be formed very early and is crystalized when language is sufficient to formulate a self-concept. With CMR the event may not be traumatic. It may be rather repetitive, unspoken messages which nontheless are imprinted not in the conscious awareness of the person but in the background, whispering at a level subliminal in its impact, like the message of a commercial heard over and over and we find ourselves buying the product apparently out of the blue. An example of this is the experience one may have from one’s ancestors – possibly unspoken but deeply heard that one is inferior or different. So many of us are immigrants and immigrated under circumstances which left our ancestors wounded. We may at some level carry those same wounds, never addressed and stored without the warning of traumatic pain. Instead we may only feel some vague unrest, dis-ease which leaches the joy from our lives and places shadow over our days.
Therapy is generally is focused on reducing the negative emotions, thoughts and behaviors. CYM is focused on that but also on then allowing the true spirit to come forth and enjoy life. For therapy generally the common belief is that change is of necessity a long and arduous process. I do not believe that is always the case and I do believe that the more we know and develop our knowledge, the faster and more efficient the process will become.